BAM’S LOVELY LIFE !!! ;)

I’m very proud and honoured to have a very special guest blogger write for me – My son, Bam. You inspire me every single day.  Bam, over to you….

I have ADHD and epilepsy so I don’t always do that well in school, but fortunately for me I have two lovely teachers and one lovely LSA. Even if I have Epilepsy and ADHD I still carry on in school and persevere thanks to everyone in my school and also my lovely Mum.

I got bullied once in school but I don’t know why it might be because of my Epilepsy or maybe because of my ADHD. I have a friend who also has ADHD and he knows he gets bullied for it I wish I could stop it but I can’t because they might be nasty to me as well and I don’t want to be bullied again of course. I banged my head once and I was dizzy for the whole entire day.

My life has been made much better by my Mum, who has now set up a charity called Braain which is made for children with ADHD AND Autism which is very kind of her ;). I have lots of friends and I play with them every day so I think I am pretty lucky.

 Special thanks to my mum who inspired me to do this wonderful blog

And my Mum’s friends Helen and Emma

 

Bam is 10!

Warning to pregnant Mummas – contains detail of a difficult birth

Wow, how does a decade go so fast….Bam is 10 today and I’m looking back wondering how we arrived at today so quickly!

This morning he said to me ‘ Mum, you can have a glass of wine tonight. I’m impressed you have kept me alive for 10 years!’

Cheers matey, don’t mind if I do!

Bam made a dramatic entrance into the world. I had contractions on and off for 5 days before the birth. He wasn’t in the right position for birth, his back was against my back. This was making the whole process very painful. Not that I had anything to compare it to but let’s just say it was beyond my pain threshold!

I had the drip thingy to try and speed up the labour but nothing really happened, just a lot more pain but no dilation. This went on for hours and hours, I was absolutely shattered!

Bam was getting distressed and his heart rate was dropping every time I had a contraction. Before I knew it the alarms were going off and I had what felt like hundreds of doctors standing around the bed!

Following some tests I was told that there was a lack of oxygen getting to his brain. The doctors advised me that they needed to get him out via C-section within 8 minutes.

It was horrible, really frightening. I lost a lot of blood and was feeling quite unwell. I wondered if we would both be ok.

We were, but I was always worried that Bam would have some form of brain damage due to the lack of oxygen reaching his brain. It was always there nagging at me.

Bam met all of his milestones and happily went off to school. I actually remember thinking, he’s going to be ok, he’s at school and he’s learning so everything must be ok.

In the first Christmas holidays of Bam’s school life, he began having seizures. This was the start of his diagnosis of cortical dysplasia (brain damage -in his case very mild but enough to cause him a few challenges along the way)

10 years later, we are still learning how the cortical dysplasia affects Bam and probably will for a good few years yet…

The last 10 years have been amazing, I wouldn’t change one thing about my boy, because he’s perfect in every way!

Happy 10th birthday Bam Bam! xxx

 

Family on tour

It’s the Easter holidays, time for a mini break with the darling children.

The sun is shining, we pack up the car and head down to the lovely county of Devon. Kids have electronic devices to entertain them on our journey. All goes pretty smoothly, apart from the frequent occurrence of bottom odour from one of the males in the car – nobody ever admits it though! Cue my constant lowering of the window to prevent suffocation.

Mum had been ultra organised and was feeling a little smug as we pulled into the local Tesco store to collect our shopping requirements for the week….no trawling round the shops with grumpy boys for me. I didn’t stay smug for long when the guy giving us our shopping pulled out the most gigantic pizza you have ever seen – boys began chuckling, I was wondering whether a small lodge oven would cope with oversized pizza.

First day we head to the beach, the sun is still shining, yes two days in a row in the UK! When the sun shines in the UK it seems rude not to indulge in an ice cream! When asked which flavour the boys would like Mops very matter of fact says ‘salted caramel please’ Salted caramel….!! How does he even know about such flavours! Unfortunately, salted caramel wasn’t on the menu so he had to settle for bubble-gum and mint choc chip – yes, together!

We were lucky enough to have a hot tub at our lodge….lovely relaxing, bubbly hot tub, over looking the lake – could it get any more relaxing? According to hubby, the answer is most definitely ‘yes’. In fact he commented that it was like sharing a bath with three idiots! Hmmm, not quite so relaxing with the kids in tow.

Next day trip, Dartmoor forest. A lovely spot for a picnic, the sun is STILL shining and we head for an afternoon of exploration. There are two different routes around the falls and the forest, both advertised as taking about 40 minutes. Of course, this doesn’t take into account Bam’s ability to effortlessly climb up hills without even so much as a glance back. I will never tire of watching him – sadly I do tire from trying to keep up with him. Anyway, with Bam on board we complete both trails in about 40mins. Oh and this was whilst they completed an Easter quiz which resulted in Bam receiving a prize of 20 Easter eggs!! Yay, as if we didn’t have enough chocolate form the very generous Easter bunny!

Final day was spent at an adventure park. Loads for the kids (including the hubby!) from a toboggan run, dinosaur trail and the biggest soft play I have ever seen. Even a beautiful bluebell wood – boys weren’t impressed with me pouring over how beautiful the bluebells were.

Time for the family on tour to return home ….exhausted (well, all of us apart from Bam!) and full of lovely happy memories! Back to school for a rest…

TV documentary on ADHD

As soon as I found out that there was going to be a documentary on ADHD with Rory Bremner, I couldn’t wait to see it. I’m always keen to learn more about the condition, hoping to hear a nugget of information that may help my Bam.

I’m pleased to say the documentary most definitely didn’t disappoint! ADHD can be very misunderstood among the general population so Rory feeling able to raise awareness of this condition is fantastic and very welcome.

The documentary talked a lot about how ADHD can be managed.  Interestingly, the documentary mentioned that ADHD can be reduced by quite a significant percentage when the person with the condition is outside. This is certainly true of Bam. His absolute favourite hobby is going to cubs. This is largely due to the amount of time that they spend outside. It’s amazing to see how happy and comfortable he is outside. This has always been the case for Bam, even when he was very small. He would like nothing more than finding a big open space and running free!

The benefits of excercise were also mentioned. For Bam this is very much linked with his passion to be outside. We rarely spend a day at home, it’s important for all of us to get out burn some energy and get some fresh air! We haven’t really found a sport that Bam likes yet, he enjoys riding his bike and running with me but his interest in these activities comes and goes.

Of course medication was also discussed. Rory actually took medication for the first time while he was doing the documentary. It was really interesting to hear how it affected him and how it helped him to be more focused. He referred to the medication changing his head from a busy noisy space to a much calmer one. It’s difficult for Bam to articulate the effect the medication has on him as he’s still very young, although one of the first things he said when he began taking the medication was ‘I can hear now’. I guess that reflects the experience that Rory described.

Finding out that the brain of an ADHD person is actually different to the brain of a non ADHD person is really interesting. On a MRI scan you could actually see the difference between the two brains. I was surprised to hear that an ADHD has something missing rather than something additional that causes the unique behaviours.

It’s reassuring to hear Rory speak of his experience and helpful to know that the things we do to help Bam are actually making his life a little bit easier. Interestingly, Bam is quite the comedian too (see Bam’s got talent) so I’m intrigued to see what path he takes in the future. In the meantime, we’ll enjoy the additional fresh air we get, it’s a great way to keep fit after all.

The documentary was on BBC2 on Tuesday 25th April at 9am – worth a watch!

 

Bam’s got talent!

Bam bounces out of school full of enthusiasm and excitement (yes, even more than usual!). The reason for his enthusiasm? He’s going to enter the school talent contest.

‘I need you to print off some jokes from the internet, I’m going to perform a comedy act’

Eek, it’s really hard to make people laugh, a little knot appears in my stomach but I muster up lots of encouragement and put my own fears to one side.

Hubby prints off some truly corny jokes – you know the ones that make you groan ‘What did the duvet say to the bed? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered! Did that make you groan?

Bam sets to work planning his script for the auditions. He works really, really hard. Night after night he sits in his bed planning and writing.

The day of the auditions arrives. I’m in awe of his confidence, there is no doubt in his mind that he has this nailed.

I’m working all day on the day of the auditions, so I ask him to text me from Mum’s phone as she is collecting him from school. School kicking out time arrives and I eagerly await the text. My phone rings…..he’s done it!!! He’s got through. 12 people out of 200 were chosen….he’s as high as a kite. So he should be, what an amazing achievement.

More nights of writing and rehearsing ahead to prepare himself  for the finals. I’m oozing with pride, having the confidence to get up and perform in front of his peers is amazing.

He didn’t win in the finals but that didn’t matter. People voted for him – my confident, bubbly and funny Bam. You always make me smile young man, seems that you have the talent to make other people smile too. Next stop Britain’s Got Talent!

Mother’s bond with her children

I don’t think there’s anything stonger than the bond between a mother and her children.

I know my boys inside out. I know what they like to do, what they like to eat and what makes them happy and sad (well most of the time anyway!)

I know it won’t always be this way and as they grow I won’t know where they are all of the time or what they are thinking. That transition will be tough but I hope they will know that I’ll always be there for them.

Mops wrote down the reasons why he loves his Mum at school this week. Here goes:

  • She’s kind to me
  • She let’s me play on my DS XL (Laughed how this one made it so high up on the list!)
  • She reads me bedtime stories
  • Nice food

Let’s hope he always thinks I make ‘nice food’ and pops in for a roast dinner on a Sunday once he has flown the nest!

Thanks boys for making me smile everyday, I love you to the moon and back!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the lovely Mums out there!

‘Don’t worry you’re not last!’

A few years ago I ran my first ever half marathon.  I ran with a friend for a charity and I have to say it really was one of the toughest 2.5 hours of my life. Ok, ok, so maybe not as tough as childbirth, particularly boy number one, but even so it was a tough couple of hours.  I remember sitting down on the tube platform after the race waiting for my train thinking I don’t think I’m going to be able to get up to get on the train. My stomach was hurting and I felt faint. It was then that I swore I would never run a half marathon again. I convinced myself that actually it wasn’t for me, I just wasn’t built for it.

So why yesterday did I find myself attempting to run a half marathon again! This time a few years older but clearly not wiser and on my own. Well not totally on my own as 1,999 other people were running too but I wasn’t running with a buddy.

Running a half marathon is tough, both mentally and physically. Training for it is also tough. Hauling my bottom off the sofa over the Christmas period was tricky…but I wanted to do this!

When I arrived at the start line yesterday morning it was bloody freezing – minus 4! The sun was shining and the atmosphere was building. I felt self conscious, standing at the start line on my own…no running belt, no gels, no buddies and I was clutching my phone. Fortunately, a lovely fellow runner, also clutching her phone, started chatting to me about the run and then I felt a bit more comfortable.

Within a few minutes we were off, my new running buddy and I spent the first 5 miles together chatting. The running community is an amazing bunch, everybody is so supportive and caring.

Once I left my running buddy, I was on my own..running around my home town as I have done many times before but this time was different, I was racing, I was proving to myself that I could do this! (again!)

I actually spent the rest of the run on my own, with the odd ‘keep going’ from fellow runners. I was also very lucky to have some supporters that braved the cold to cheer me on. Just knowing that I had friends dotted around the course kept me motivated to continue.

When I got to mile 11, I could have easily given up. I had only run up to mile 11 in training so mentally I thought that I wouldn’t be able to run any further. There was a small hill ahead, I was tired. I had pushed myself to go this far but wasn’t sure if I could continue for that extra mile or two! When you reach that point it’s tough, especially when you are running on your own.

But ,I did keep going, the thought of my boys at the finish line and a hot bubble bath were enough, I was determined to run the last two miles and make them proud!

They were there at the finish line, shouting ‘Mum’ and saying ‘don’t worry, you’re not last’.

I had done it, I had reached the finish line…I was faster than when I ran a half marathon three years ago and I felt better physically too. So last night I felt proud, I hope that my boys did too.

Oh and the bubble bath was the best bubble bath I have EVER had!