Family on tour

It’s the Easter holidays, time for a mini break with the darling children.

The sun is shining, we pack up the car and head down to the lovely county of Devon. Kids have electronic devices to entertain them on our journey. All goes pretty smoothly, apart from the frequent occurrence of bottom odour from one of the males in the car – nobody ever admits it though! Cue my constant lowering of the window to prevent suffocation.

Mum had been ultra organised and was feeling a little smug as we pulled into the local Tesco store to collect our shopping requirements for the week….no trawling round the shops with grumpy boys for me. I didn’t stay smug for long when the guy giving us our shopping pulled out the most gigantic pizza you have ever seen – boys began chuckling, I was wondering whether a small lodge oven would cope with oversized pizza.

First day we head to the beach, the sun is still shining, yes two days in a row in the UK! When the sun shines in the UK it seems rude not to indulge in an ice cream! When asked which flavour the boys would like Mops very matter of fact says ‘salted caramel please’ Salted caramel….!! How does he even know about such flavours! Unfortunately, salted caramel wasn’t on the menu so he had to settle for bubble-gum and mint choc chip – yes, together!

We were lucky enough to have a hot tub at our lodge….lovely relaxing, bubbly hot tub, over looking the lake – could it get any more relaxing? According to hubby, the answer is most definitely ‘yes’. In fact he commented that it was like sharing a bath with three idiots! Hmmm, not quite so relaxing with the kids in tow.

Next day trip, Dartmoor forest. A lovely spot for a picnic, the sun is STILL shining and we head for an afternoon of exploration. There are two different routes around the falls and the forest, both advertised as taking about 40 minutes. Of course, this doesn’t take into account Bam’s ability to effortlessly climb up hills without even so much as a glance back. I will never tire of watching him – sadly I do tire from trying to keep up with him. Anyway, with Bam on board we complete both trails in about 40mins. Oh and this was whilst they completed an Easter quiz which resulted in Bam receiving a prize of 20 Easter eggs!! Yay, as if we didn’t have enough chocolate form the very generous Easter bunny!

Final day was spent at an adventure park. Loads for the kids (including the hubby!) from a toboggan run, dinosaur trail and the biggest soft play I have ever seen. Even a beautiful bluebell wood – boys weren’t impressed with me pouring over how beautiful the bluebells were.

Time for the family on tour to return home ….exhausted (well, all of us apart from Bam!) and full of lovely happy memories! Back to school for a rest…

TV documentary on ADHD

As soon as I found out that there was going to be a documentary on ADHD with Rory Bremner, I couldn’t wait to see it. I’m always keen to learn more about the condition, hoping to hear a nugget of information that may help my Bam.

I’m pleased to say the documentary most definitely didn’t disappoint! ADHD can be very misunderstood among the general population so Rory feeling able to raise awareness of this condition is fantastic and very welcome.

The documentary talked a lot about how ADHD can be managed.  Interestingly, the documentary mentioned that ADHD can be reduced by quite a significant percentage when the person with the condition is outside. This is certainly true of Bam. His absolute favourite hobby is going to cubs. This is largely due to the amount of time that they spend outside. It’s amazing to see how happy and comfortable he is outside. This has always been the case for Bam, even when he was very small. He would like nothing more than finding a big open space and running free!

The benefits of excercise were also mentioned. For Bam this is very much linked with his passion to be outside. We rarely spend a day at home, it’s important for all of us to get out burn some energy and get some fresh air! We haven’t really found a sport that Bam likes yet, he enjoys riding his bike and running with me but his interest in these activities comes and goes.

Of course medication was also discussed. Rory actually took medication for the first time while he was doing the documentary. It was really interesting to hear how it affected him and how it helped him to be more focused. He referred to the medication changing his head from a busy noisy space to a much calmer one. It’s difficult for Bam to articulate the effect the medication has on him as he’s still very young, although one of the first things he said when he began taking the medication was ‘I can hear now’. I guess that reflects the experience that Rory described.

Finding out that the brain of an ADHD person is actually different to the brain of a non ADHD person is really interesting. On a MRI scan you could actually see the difference between the two brains. I was surprised to hear that an ADHD has something missing rather than something additional that causes the unique behaviours.

It’s reassuring to hear Rory speak of his experience and helpful to know that the things we do to help Bam are actually making his life a little bit easier. Interestingly, Bam is quite the comedian too (see Bam’s got talent) so I’m intrigued to see what path he takes in the future. In the meantime, we’ll enjoy the additional fresh air we get, it’s a great way to keep fit after all.

The documentary was on BBC2 on Tuesday 25th April at 9am – worth a watch!

 

Mother’s bond with her children

I don’t think there’s anything stonger than the bond between a mother and her children.

I know my boys inside out. I know what they like to do, what they like to eat and what makes them happy and sad (well most of the time anyway!)

I know it won’t always be this way and as they grow I won’t know where they are all of the time or what they are thinking. That transition will be tough but I hope they will know that I’ll always be there for them.

Mops wrote down the reasons why he loves his Mum at school this week. Here goes:

  • She’s kind to me
  • She let’s me play on my DS XL (Laughed how this one made it so high up on the list!)
  • She reads me bedtime stories
  • Nice food

Let’s hope he always thinks I make ‘nice food’ and pops in for a roast dinner on a Sunday once he has flown the nest!

Thanks boys for making me smile everyday, I love you to the moon and back!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the lovely Mums out there!

Juggling act

I’m no circus performer but any parent will be an expert at juggling. Raising kids, running a house, working, a social life and ‘me’ time. Oh and then there’s the washing, this is actually a part time job in itself – where on earth does it all come from?!

Unfortunately planning a social life and ‘me’ time tends to be put to the bottom of the pile. Who has time to plan a social life and as for ‘me’ time well that’s normally 9pm to 10pm catching up on the days events on facebook or maybe a bit of TV.

I love my job and I love my kids but juggling the two and ‘life’ can and does have it challenges, particularly when the two cross over as it did for me just before Christmas.

Picture the scene….I’m wandering around the lake on my day off from work with my lovely friend, her two boys, my two boys and her dog. The boys were running, enjoying the freedom and the dog was joining in the fun.

The dog then spotted a rubber ball in the stream that somebody had left there.  One of the boys grabbed it out of the stream and started throwing the ball for the very excited dog. There were lots of giggles and shouting…cue my mobile ringing…a work call. I quickly say to my friend ‘it’s a work call, I just need to get this’.

I’m chatting to my colleague, the giggling and shouting still around me. Without warning, I suddenly have this hard bang to the back of my head! Mops had thrown the ball for the dog and it had hit me on the head….really hard….in fact it was eye wateringly hard. In a stunned state I calmly let my colleague know that I have been hit on the head by a ball, just to cover for my short delay in responding. In normal circumstances I would have let out a little bit of a scream or an ouch but something inside me allows me to remain professional or may be I was still in a stunned state!

My friend at this point is chuckling away…but I’m determined, I can remain professional. I complete the call. We both have a chuckle…..my hair is dishevelled, with a splattering of mud and stream water – a small reminder of how glamorous motherhood can be!

So keeping all of the juggling balls of life in the air has its challenges but its ok if we drop one every now and then…well as long as it doesn’t whack you on the back of the head!

This post is dedicated to my lovely, lovely, friend – thanks for always being there xxx